Hello there to all my new readers! As you all know this this blog is fairly new so this is only my second post on this particular blog. I am here with another topic that absolutely concerns me. I have to start off saying that I am really getting fed up with all the stereotypes about women as it pertains to dating. I am not just going to direct this at black women, but all women. After watching shows such as "Being Mary Jane", seeing some movies like "My Favorite Five" and a host of other shows/movies I started to wonder how many of these stereotypes about women could possibly be true.
Why is that majority of the movies that portray single women mostly show them unhappy, crying, angry, hateful, revengeful, gullible, desperate, or just plain sleeping around with every man that they meet until they find someone to sweep them off their feet? I mean really is this true for us as women? I really hope not. We tend to fall into stereotypes of us because we think its cute when its not.
Now don't get me wrong, I know that we as women can be emotional, we can even get angry to the point where we want to seek revenge, but we have to start loving ourselves and loving ourselves means that we demand respect and we don't open our legs to every man that we encounter. That shouldn't be the main way that we are portrayed in the media and shouldn't be the way that we are in real life.
We shouldn't be happy being the sidechick either(although I may save that for another blog post). We have to believe that we are beautiful, we deserve to be treated with respect, we deserved to be loved. People will only treat us how we treat ourselves and we have to be honest with ourselves. Ladies, if we are hurt and not ready to be dating or even in a relationship we need to take time for ourselves. We have to allow ourselves to heal. We also have to know how to leave the past in the past and know that not every guy is the same.
I know that once you have been hurt more than once it starts to feel like every guy is the same, but when something happens repeatedly that is when it is time to look within and start examining our choices. There is something within us that attracts every person that we meet whether we want to believe it our not.
This is even true for abusive relationships, there is some insecurity that an abuser can see and that is how they attack. They know what to say, how to say it, and what do to do to lure the person in and then they try to take control.
My intention with this post is not to bash, but to uplift. From one woman to another, I definitely understand the hurt and the pain that relationships or just the trials of life can leave, but we have to heal. Love yourself enough to know that you deserve better. You do not have to have sex in order for someone to like or love you, you do not have to dress a certain way to get someones attention, you don't have to change who you are on the inside because the right person will appreciate you, respect you, embrace you, and love you for you. It's time for you/us to heal!
Sunday, April 26, 2015
Thursday, April 9, 2015
Is Erica Campell's New Single "I Luh God" That Bad?
In light of the release of Erica Campbell's new album "Help 2.0", I have to honestly say that I am becoming slightly annoyed. I am not annoyed with her album, but rather annoyed with the judgments that have come against her since her new album release. I started to think about her song "I need just a little more Jesus" that was included on her first album and then remixed(the remix is actually hot might I add) on her second album. I started to think about how true that is for me and probably all of us. I find that a lot of people are turned off by Christians and please do not read this post wrong because I definitely am a Christian. I just happen to understand why people would be turned off and the main reason is because we are just so judgmental.
We as Christians are sometimes the first to judge especially when it comes to our brothers and sisters in Christ. We tend of forget that we are not perfect when we start to form opinions about others.
I decided to just put that scripture right there in the middle because I believe that scriptures speak volumes. As some of you may or may not know, Erica Campbell, has a song on her new album entitled "I luh God" and she has received so much negative feedback from it. It's one thing to say you don't like the song, that is your choice. I don't always like every song that I hear either, however, saying that Erica is not a true Christian, she is going mainstream, she is selling out, etc etc is something totally different. Clearly, with the song she is trying to reach a different audience and in the song she is still praising God. I know many people have not yet accepted Gospel in the form of hip hop or rnb, people prefer the old school style of gospel music, but hey its a new day and age and there is nothing wrong with that type of music or Erica's song. We need to stop judging the gifts that God gave people because we have no idea of how God spoke to them or is using them.
Another thing that I see is people asking what is "luh" and to that I say just stop it, really. "Luh" is ebonics for love and most people are just nitpicking just to find something wrong with the song. She says nothing evil or contradicting in the song. I personally actually like the song and it did catch me by surprise because I didn't expect that from her, but that's also why you shouldn't have expectations of people. I am glad that she is trying new things and not letting people define her.
So, now what about you? Do you like the song? It's OK if you don't! In case you haven't heard it, I will post it here. BTW this is the first post that I have made on this particular blog as this one is new, so I didn't include a video, but I will try to include interviews in most of the blog post that I write for this particular blog.
We as Christians are sometimes the first to judge especially when it comes to our brothers and sisters in Christ. We tend of forget that we are not perfect when we start to form opinions about others.
Matthew 7:3-5 New International Version (NIV)
3 “Why do you look at the speck of sawdust in your brother’s eye and pay no attention to the plank in your own eye? 4 How can you say to your brother, ‘Let me take the speck out of your eye,’ when all the time there is a plank in your own eye? 5 You hypocrite, first take the plank out of your own eye, and then you will see clearly to remove the speck from your brother’s eye.'''I decided to just put that scripture right there in the middle because I believe that scriptures speak volumes. As some of you may or may not know, Erica Campbell, has a song on her new album entitled "I luh God" and she has received so much negative feedback from it. It's one thing to say you don't like the song, that is your choice. I don't always like every song that I hear either, however, saying that Erica is not a true Christian, she is going mainstream, she is selling out, etc etc is something totally different. Clearly, with the song she is trying to reach a different audience and in the song she is still praising God. I know many people have not yet accepted Gospel in the form of hip hop or rnb, people prefer the old school style of gospel music, but hey its a new day and age and there is nothing wrong with that type of music or Erica's song. We need to stop judging the gifts that God gave people because we have no idea of how God spoke to them or is using them.
Another thing that I see is people asking what is "luh" and to that I say just stop it, really. "Luh" is ebonics for love and most people are just nitpicking just to find something wrong with the song. She says nothing evil or contradicting in the song. I personally actually like the song and it did catch me by surprise because I didn't expect that from her, but that's also why you shouldn't have expectations of people. I am glad that she is trying new things and not letting people define her.
So, now what about you? Do you like the song? It's OK if you don't! In case you haven't heard it, I will post it here. BTW this is the first post that I have made on this particular blog as this one is new, so I didn't include a video, but I will try to include interviews in most of the blog post that I write for this particular blog.
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